November 13, 2008
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How do you react when you run into your ex for the first time after a break up? Do you say hi or avoid and walk away?
How do you react when you run into your ex for the first time after a break up? Do you say hi or avoid and walk away?
Comments (73)
I never had an ex in my life, so I do not know. I suggest being polite and saying hello. After all, you were at least friends before. I don’t like burning bridges behind me. You will never know who you might need someday–especially at work.
frank
For me … go the “NO FEAR” route.
oh i hope he looks fat and ugly…lol
i cry my eyes out.
jk.
mm.. havent had the luxury of this happening yet… I suppose id just say hi, make small talk and move along…
or possibly sneak off with her somewhere and have a quickie?
haha
If he’s near enough, quick hello.
If he’s far away, I act like I didnt see him. Maybe Ill even avoid him, leaving the area
haha thanks for the comment, i actually had photos published in a magazine and the newspaper on campus. but yeah.. im a bit too busy now to take photos… i wanna travel the world and take photos… as cliche as it sounds haha..
said “w’dup playa!! N’thin’ much, chilln’ n playin’” and walks off with a gangsta limp
@datzboiz -
hahahahhahahaha you crack me up.
I’d grab the closest girl next to me (hoping she’s extremely hot) and say what up, this my new girl. And introduce the random stranger to my ex…
In all honesty though, there is probably two ways you can go about it.
A) Be polite say hi, and move on
B) Hold on to your ego and dignity, and pretend you didn’t see them
I have a feeling most people like to choose B.
I would at the least, say “hi.” You have to remember that this person was once someone you had loved, someone who you were willing to spend the rest of you life with, and simply someone who you trusted whole heartedly with. Hence, if this person had such an impact on you for a period of time, this person must be special in one way or another. Furthermore, after the break-up this person is perhaps still the sam person that you had once fallen in-love with. Therefore, there’s no point in being ignorant to that person… Remember, “just because someone doesn’t love you the way that you want them to, doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all that they have.” I’ve broken up with the first girl that I’ve ever loved in my life for nearly 10 years now, I’ve went on several dates with various women, but I will still always treat my ex as someone special.. Whether if we’re still together or not.
fortunately for me, i’ve stayed friends with my exes… i usually say hi and do a little catching up.
I hadn’t seen “the one” for quite some time but when I was out working in my yard she walked by and just as she was about to say hi I walked away. I try to ignore her and pretend she is dead.
My ex and I are buddy buddy with each other, so we’re cool saying hello and what’s up with our lives. Maybe it’s because we have a lot of common close friends so making them take sides (if were the case, but it’s not) would be the bitch thing to do and we all hang out a lot when I visit home. As for my other exes, I would probably say hello and do a quick catch up if I’m not so busy. It’s interesting at times to see how they continued on with their lives.
@Nhi214 - Well let me sum this up for you. Would you like to remember someone who you once loved with everything within you, as a special someon? Or would you rather hold onto grudges and lose that special feeling that you once had? Like I said, there once was a time when that person was your world, don’t lose that memory… right? My break up was messy also, but I still try to think positively about her.. I try to keep the good memories…
i guess it depends how bad the break up was.
if it ended on a sour note… ignore him and grab the closest guy
if it ended amicably… then at least say hi
then again… any guy that lost you as a gf shouldn’t be acknowledged at all… haha
Keep it casual and say hi. Just be civil. Regardless of how bad of a break up it was. I feel its the moral thing to do. Plus like hardlyhandsome said this person was once special to you, why focus on the negativity of the relationship.
i will say hi to him no matter how awkward the situation is. =D I mean, you certainly dnt want to create an impression that you are not over him right?
Good Morning—yes,she was my first love and the first time I saw her I knew that I had seen the most beautiful girl in the world and, shy as I was, I just had to talk to her.
just say ‘hi, how are ya?’, smile at whatever response you get and move on…
hi,
Xin mot lan duoc yeu
Nàng là người tình…mà trong tim tôi ước mơ.
Thầm yêu em bấy lâu, thế nhưng dám đâu ngỏ lời.
Nhìn nàng thật hiền hoà, đẹp tựa sương mai nhân gian đắm say.
Nàng cho anh bao ước mơ, cho anh hy vọng…người ơi!
Một lần thôi xin được yêu, được yêu em trong trái tim.
Một tình yêu đam mê khát khao, với bao mong chờ dù trong giấc mơ.
Đừng xa cách em ơi đừng hững hờ, đừng để con tim anh nhói đau.
Một lần thôi…dù phải…khổ đau…người ơi!
Một lần thôi xin được yêu, được yêu như con sóng xô.
Ngoài đại dương mênh mông vút cao.
Cho bao ân tình cùng nhau hát ca
Đừng xa cách em ơi đừng hững hờ, đừng để con tim anh nhói đau.
Thầm yêu em anh xin mãi yêu…chân tình… !
I would say Hi no matter how bad (I hate him or he hates me) and messy broke up between us !! It’s just my idea… and I did it !
I believe it depends on who was the dumper and the dumpee. Also depends how the breakup went. If you were the dumpee and your not over the other person I think you should just ignore them or it’ll bring back some feelings that you don’t want while you are healing. If you are over the person than maybe just a quick hi and stuff but don’t spend too much time talking to them. If you were the dumper than it’s nice to say hi atleast but depends on the situation. Look at them and if you feel they want you to say hi then go for it… If not just pretend you never saw them.
smack him and walk away – that’s the only thing to do with a cheater. I love the picture.
i give the ex a “die and go to hell” look. but that’s just me. =)
I would (and have) stop and talk to any of my exes.
@darth_cosmos -
That’s true! The last thing a girl wants is give the impression that she’s not over her ex.
@SweetTux -
dumper/dumpee–gotta love break up terminology. haha. I think some people have trouble with this situation is because it’s awkward period. Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, it’s still an awkward situation.
@spokenfor -
Cheaters don’t deserve to get acknowledged.
@vlam04 -
ahhhh the death stare…I am quite good at it, but I’ll be nice
@Nhi214 - Break up terminology is the best! I’m an expert! =) Yea I do agree it is awkward, but I think it’s less awkward if your the dumper cause you have a better chance of being over the other person than the dumpee is… That’s only my opinion though..
I’d say hi… I’m still good friends with my ex-girlfriends… Most of the break-ups were messy, but we both get over it. We were friends before we started dating… That is why it is called dating, you date to find out if you were meant to be together. If not, you move on… =)… plus it doesn’t hurt if your ex-girlfriend introduces you to her single friends too! hehehehe
I’d say hi, ask her how she’s doing and move on.
I was going to Target a few days ago and thought I saw my ex husband!! Four years later! My heart started racing. Still don’t know if it was him or not. We live in the same town.
if it’s at the club, you just *rock away*
well, every break up is different. but i probably wouldnt say anything first unless they approach to me.
Depend on the break up. If it was bad break up, not worth the time saying hi. If it was a mutual break up, I would just say hi and then go cry in the corner. haha just kidding. I guess it all depend on how the relationship ended.
@allysays -
You took the words right out of my mouth, Ally.
lol
It would be so awkward so I’d rather avoid them haha
avoid, my ex and I are so awkward.
Haha what a funny cartoon.
Depends. If I’m looking good or not.
well if you use to love him you can atleast just say hi and be polite. i mean unless he cheated then just give him the cold shoulder =P. i ran into my ex gf for the first time while on a date a few months back. soooo awkward
Pretending not noticing her.
never had this problem
beat the shit out of the guy she cheated on me with
I would run!! lol I hate conflicts and awkward moments. ^_^
RYC: Thanx. I’m so bad at replying to comments since I only tend to access Xanga through my Iphone. Nice to meet you Nhi.
hmmm now i’m thinking to myself, why do you look so familiar….
first words out of my mouth are always, “shit u got fat.”
i don’t do it on purpose, it’s like programmed…
I say hi, smile, walk away and then say to myself, “damn, you look like crap”.
b/c most of the time, they do.
muahahaha
If it was a good break up, we’d still be frds, so that wouldn’t matter.
But if it was some bad break up, i’m pretty sure i’ll walk up to him and punch him in the face then run
haha, i doubt it, i’ll probably see what he does, or i’ll just “hello” nod and walk right pass him, or just pretend i didn’t see hm. Or maybe like the picture you posted 
@Jere21 -
I think girls look better than ever after a break up. you got it the other way around! guys, on the other hand though, look worse than before the break up.
@millyvanillyy -
I’ll consider one of your possibilities next time I run into my ex! haha
@Nhi214 - haha, & which one would that be?
just be the mature one and say hi… or at least, smile at her/him…
walk up to him say hi and then knee him in the crotch and say “that’s how i feel about you, and no I don’t want to have your kids, you can’t produce any after that anyways.”
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I would say hi, and a quick wave of the fingers and a beautiful smile. That will keep him thinking.
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that fanny pack is hot!!
how cute. you found a little pouch for the electronic, house arrest monitor.
@chechbm -
All thanks to you. If you didn’t tell me about this little pouch that you found for your house arrest monitor, I wouldn’t have known about it. Now, hopefully people won’t stare as much. Thanks! =)
i love your personality, you are so funny.
blog again please!
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Hi Ai, thank you for your comment! Your make-up is also very beautiful!
Hope you have a lovely week ahead,
Lots of love
Emyli.
Just dropping by to give u some credits as promised..
saw ur comment on cakalusas page..
haha.. actually.. in asia.. dont girls leave their humogo bushes for hygienic reasons?
i love the scientific explanation you gave me. hahaha
haha i like the fanny pack idea
So fashionable (= have fun in CA & Chicago!
Haha yes, it was to prove that I was actually a real person!
Hope you’re keeping well and having a good week!
Lots of love
Emyli
ooo thanks so much for telling about express having that 00 short! and weirdly, my viet name is nhi haha
Thanks for the comment
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Be courteous but don’t say anything and walk away politely.