August 4, 2009

  • All or Nothing

    It’s so odd that you spend so much time and effort investing your heart and soul into a relationship with someone, expecting the relationship to last forever, only to have it spit back into your face when it falls apart.

    So, the question is, is there a time when you just know that a good relationship is truly a good one so you hold nothing back, and weather out any storms together? And is there a time when you know that the relationship is not going anywhere, that you don’t have a future together so you only put in 50% of the effort? How do you know when to give it your all and when to not? Is that even a healthy way to go about relationships? Or is it better to just whole-heartedly give it a try, whether it works out or not, at least, in the end you know that you took a risk; you gave yourself and the other person a chance to find out; and you’ve tried your best?

    After all, the future is unknown to all of us, and it would be almost premature, presumptuous, and surreal for us to decide the fate of our own future based on our fears of what the future might bring. Why are we so afraid of the future? Is the future so threatening, so distraught, so fearful that we'd rather sabotage our happiness to avoid facing it?